Instead of continuing down that path, I propose we simply refer to Mr. O’Flaherty as “Paul ‘Fuckwad‘ O’Flaherty’.
It has all the deservedly mean-spirited “you are a violently stupid person” ring to it, and it’s easier to get through than a half-dozen pages worth of “I have obviously never cracked open a book on abuse, or even had even a single conversation with a survivor about their experiences. However, my wife says I’m qualified to talk about what the proper behavior for a victim is, and I feel as though I got taken in by some bullshit about the TSA once.”
To address the Fuckwad directly: is it possible this is complete bullshit? Of course it is. It is possible that Ms. Shirley has decided that she never wants to be trusted, respected, or listened to again. Ever. Of course, it’s also possible a guy at a conference got drunk and couldn’t bring himself to understand the word “No.”
Take a wild guess which one Occam would pick.